There are so many different ways to learn about sexuality. One can research a topic on the internet, read books, watch educational movies, or talk to a sex therapist.
Sexological bodywork is somatic education, which means the learning takes place in your body. Whether you read about yoga or watch a video about dancing, those can be great ways to start learning. But at some point you have to get out of your head and experience it for yourself. Sexological bodywork (aka somatic sex education) uses body experiences to help you unlock your erotic potential.
One main component is erotic embodiment. Do you only focus on your partner during sex without being aware of your own needs? Do you tune out and fantasize easily, without staying present in your body? In the end it is all about raising the arousal energy to experience pleasure while being fully present in your body. Some people dive into fantasies during sex, trying to avoid thoughts that might occur if they were present with their body and their partner. That can be due to shame, fear of not being accepted, or past trauma. It can have a million reasons and it is not always a bad thing to tune out and fantasize. However if fantasies distract you and take you out of your body every time, you might be missing out on amazing ways to experience pleasure and build an authentic connection with a partner.
In a society that is built on the protestant view that killing is fine, where going to war is celebrated, but nudity and sex are coined things to be ashamed of, almost everyone has build up a charge around sexuality and has difficulties experiencing erotic energy without some shame. Somatic sex education can help you free yourself from these blocks and expand how much pleasure you can feel. Pleasure is a birthright. By using my training as a counselor I create a safe environment which makes it possible to explore and overcome fears around sexuality in a sacred space.
Bringing your heart, mind, and body into alignment can be the beginning of a better, deeper connection with yourself and others.
Sexological bodywork uses breath, movement, sound, and touch to explore your erotic core, to help you become more connected to your pleasure and your body, and to support healing from sexual wounds. While it can be difficult to explore this with your partner, a sexological bodywork session creates a safe environment to practice being present with your feelings, exploring boundaries and consent. It is an opportunity to discover what feels good for you, what you are comfortable with, and what you are not. Most importantly I will never do anything that you do not want to do. You can say no to anything at any time, and you can change your mind at any time.
A session begins with an intake about your history of pleasure, shame, and trauma, any fears and core erotic themes you may have, and what you would like to explore. We will practice consent, radical honesty, and the creation of boundaries. The intake form I will ask you to fill out to capture this information and bring to our session is at the bottom of this page.
It is also important to know that all touch will always be one-way, from me to you, and on a massage table. This gives you the opportunity to learn how to actively receive touch. I remain fully clothed during the entire session and wear gloves for all genital contact to maintain your safety.
I am very mindful of confidentiality and privacy. I will never disclose any information about you, including the fact that we are working together, without your written consent or legal order. You, however, are always welcome to share anything about your experiences with anyone you choose.
I specialize on working with people of all genders that have been sexually abused or shut down in some way - be it distrust of a certain gender, or to practice overcoming fears in a safe environment. I enjoy working with everyone, but I have discovered that I find it deeply satisfying to help people safely exploring new views and becoming empowered in their joy of life.
Legal Notice: With reference to California Penal Code section 647(b) and CALCRIM Nos. 1153 to 1155,the services discussed herein do not in any way include or relate to either (1) engagement in any lewd act for money or other consideration, or (2) solicitation, offer, or agreement to engage in any lewd act for money or other consideration. SB577 : Complementary healing arts such as Somatic Sex Therapy and Sexological Bodywork do not require licensing by the state of California